18 to 24 months · Hitting or biting
Hitting or biting at 18 to 24 months
Quick answer
What should I say when hitting or biting at 18 to 24 months?
You're mad he took your truck. Hitting still isn't okay. Let's get it back together.
What's happening developmentally
Frustration tolerance is still very low and words for feelings are still very few, so a hand or a bite often arrives before a sentence does when another child takes a toy.
Three scripts to try
“You're mad he took your truck. Hitting still isn't okay. Let's get it back together.”
“You can ask for it back with words, or come get me to help. Which one?”
“Hands are for building, not hitting. Let's build a tower with those strong hands instead.”
These are a starting point, not a transcript. Read when to reach for each type.
What not to say, and why
- “Forcing an immediate, insincere "sorry."” — Teaches performing an apology, not understanding one, and often the words mean nothing yet at this age.
- “Publicly shaming in front of other parents.” — Adds humiliation on top of a feeling they already couldn't manage, which does not build better regulation.
When it usually passes
This typically eases over the following months as vocabulary for wanting, sharing, and frustration grows enough to replace the physical response.
When to talk to your pediatrician
If hitting or biting is frequent, intense, or paired with other new concerns you're noticing day to day, bring it up at the next pediatrician visit. Read our full typical vs. worth a pediatrician chat guide.